Well, ladies and gentleman that was the reality for Jessica Baker who received a bill from a "friend" for a no-show to the couples wedding. Kelsey Borreson of the HuffPost Weddings wrote, "Jessica
Baker's mom, who was supposed to babysit her kids on the night of the wedding, had to cancel at the last minute. Children were not welcome at the wedding so she and her husband were unable to attend.She later received a bill for $75.90 from the newlyweds to cover the cost of the meals they missed, as well as tax and a service fee."
Can you imagine that? A bill because you had an emergency and couldn't go to a party. Borreson continues,
"Anna Post -- the great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post -- told The Huffington Post that billing an absentee wedding guest is "never okay" and "super rude." and, "Rather than being disappointed about not seeing these guests at the wedding, the couple chose to focus on the money involved, and that always gets ugly," she said. "It doesn’t matter how frustrated you are, it’s no excuse for behaving badly in return." See the full story link below.
The Internet is in an uproar about the story. There's an argument for both sides. One user said,
"the cost of a wedding is high and if the couple RSVP, that's cost that's put aside for them."
Another woman chimed in, "things happen, especially when you are invited to a party that you say no kids. #shameonthem."
A male user added, (although I think he was trying to be the funny man), "what about the pots and pans they got them."
I wrote a post a few weeks back about the importance of party etiquette, read it here. I know the costs
of an event is expensive but the idea of sending a friend an invoice because they couldn't make it to your party is just a no-no to me. I've been invited to event with no kids allowed, and well, I just didn't go. In the case of Mrs. Baker who received the invoice from her friend, it was out of her control. She had every intention of going and due to last minute changes, she wasn't able to go. I would really question our friendship at that point, if I was her. Whenever you decide to host an event which requires an RSVP, be prepared for no-shows, as well as unexpected guests.
I reached out to Etiquette Expert, Debby Mayne for her opinion on the subject mater and she said it best, "wedding planning is tricky, but it's essential to understand that there will be some no-shows, and that number goes up as the guest list number increases."
Well said Debby. I asked another friend and she said, "that's crazy. An RSVP is not a contract. I wouldn't pay anything."
And I share their sentiments. Like everything in life, there are ups and downs and risks to planning and hosting events. Food is not as good as the taste visit. Cake arrived late. DJ lost your play list. Extra people show up uninvited and guests no-show. It's all part of it. So before you ruin your friendship think about it. Your friend could have had to deal with an big emergency and all you thought about was money.
If you need a good read on how to entertain children at your next event, read this post here, and don't exclude any friends or family member.
For the full story at HuffPost: One Woman Was Billed $75 For Missing A Wedding, And The Internet Is Livid
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